Richard T. writes: “Today is ‘Fat Tuesday’ which reminded me to post a question about food. Is it disrespectful to eat and drink at a visitation or funeral?”
Not at all. Sharing a meal after the death of a friend or family member has been a tradition in many cultures for centuries. It makes sense; most family gatherings and traditions revolve around meals and for many food is comforting.
In past decades, most meals were shared after the official funeral rituals were over. But recently families have realized the value in serving food and beverages during visitations and funerals. These days people are busier than ever and they appreciate offers of refreshment and nourishment while they visit and pay tribute.
For instance, at Krause Funeral Homes we hear very positive feedback when families offer their guests wine, beer, soft drinks and substantial hors d’oeuvres at an early evening visitation. It allows people to stay and share stories without having to rush off to feed their families. We cater everything from wine and cheese samplings to multi-course, seated meals. Click here to learn more.
Regarding “Fat Tuesday,” it is the day before the Christian Ash Wednesday. It begins the 40 days of Lent, and is also called Mardi Gras, Shrove Tuesday and Pancake Day. According to Wikipedia, pancakes are associated with this day because they were cooked in a way to use up rich foodstuffs such as eggs, milk, and sugar, before the fasting season of Lent. For the record, Krause Funeral Homes can cater pancakes at a gathering too.