Losing a loved one is difficult emotionally, mentally, and even physically – and the pain can last a long time. At Krause Funeral Homes, many people have told us they didn’t realize how difficult death was until someone close to them passed away. During the grief journey, all kinds of feelings emerge – some are obvious and visible, while others seem to linger just beneath the surface. Some of the things you feel and experience might even surprise you. Anger is actually one of the most common, but least expected, grief reactions. There are times when anger can well up without any warning. While it might catch you off guard, experts agree anger plays a major role in grief and loss.
So what are some of the most common reasons for feelings of anger after a loss?
- Maybe friends or relatives make comments that are unhelpful or offensive and you find yourself tense and upset.
- You might feel medical professionals didn’t do their jobs correctly and things could have turned out differently.
- Maybe someone is directly responsible for your loved one’s death, and you can’t seem to move past your fury.
- Anger can bubble up when you begin to observe that the rest of the world is going on as usual while your life has turned upside down.
- Did your loved one die as a direct result of their own action or inaction? Then you might even feel angry at them.
While everyone’s grief looks a little different, it’s important for your to know that anger is a normal and natural reaction to grief and loss, but if not worked through properly it can quickly spin out of control or create bitterness. That’s why it’s so important to learn how to manage anger in a constructive way.
The Krause team is here to help as you work through your own individual grief experience. Our Guiding Grief Interactive Online Help offers immediate support and provides practical information about the grieving process. We can also connect you with grief support groups in the Milwaukee County area, where you can join others who have experienced loss, talk with licensed counselors, and explore additional grief services. Or consider meeting with our Grief Therapy Dog, Bennie, who has received years of specialized training to learn how to bring comfort to the hurting. Plus, we think he has a special knack for sensing human emotion.
Our aftercare program for seniors offers activities, events, and caregiving resources. Krause Funeral Homes also sponsors, co-sponsors, and participates in educational classes and events throughout the year that may be exactly what you need to help you heal.
After the funeral is over and life starts to return to your new normal, remember this: Letting go and moving past your anger doesn’t mean forgetting your loved one. Letting go means opening yourself up to hope while seeing the world more clearly. Make the choice to express your anger in a healthy way and find joy again. And don’t hesitate to reach out to our caring team if we can help you with this process.