Visitation
Krause Funeral Home Brookfield
21600 West Capitol Drive
Brookfield, WI 53072
Saturday 12/5,
9:30 am - 10:30 am
Service
Krause Funeral Home Brookfield
21600 West Capitol Drive
Brookfield, WI 53072
Saturday 12/5,
10:30 am
Memorial
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The Sunshine Goddess On November 21st, Sabitha Devi Du Vall (nee Mohtram) passed away after a courageous battle with AML Leukemia. Sabitha was born in Ipswich, England on October 25, 1950 to Kalloo and Sylvia Mohtram and is survived by her husband, Wayne Du Vall, two children Bryan and Jennifer Janeczko, three stepchildren Jason DuContinue Reading
Margaret Chavez
left a message on December 5, 2020:
In memory of Sabitha Devi Du Vall, Margaret Chavez lit a candle
Helen wilce
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Im lighting a candle in rememberance of my lovely cousin beci , lots of fond memories of when we were all children together especially on holidays. Beci was always the life and soul of the party and will be sorely missed by all her knew her. Lots of love helen xx
Danna West
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all right now
Ronald Schulz
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Jennifer and I have been neighbors for years we have enjoyed looking at Sabithas beautiful flower gardens, she added new flowers every year. We will miss seeing her out planting and watering but her memory will always be with us as we continue to enjoy all her hard work in her. Our thoughts and prayers will continue to be with you.
David Brenner
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Marcie and I want you to know that Sabitha will always be in our thoughts. She was such a wonderful, loving, and caring person. We will miss her.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Mahin Motamedi Witkowski
left a message on December 5, 2020:
She was sunshine. She was life itself with an enormously generous heart.
She was an ocean of love, sincerity, integrity – the strongest warrior; the most courageous person I have ever known.
To me, she was more than a best friend; she was my sister.
It was a sunny spring morning when we met for the first time. It was my first day at Miller Brewing Company and I was pondering over my day’s priorities when her soft voice broke the train of my thoughts.
“Good morning,” she said.
I looked up and saw in front of me a very attractive young lady with the sweetest smile I had ever seen.
“Good morning,” I echoed.
“My name is Sabitha and I just wanted to welcome you,” she said with a very warm English accent. “If you need anything please let me know. My desk is around the corner.”
That was 1978 and our first step toward our life-long relationship. Back then, I was raising my daughter, Tatiana, and she had her hands full with her two children, Bryan and Jennifer. We were single mothers. For both of us, America was our new home.
From then on, we were there for each other 24/7. In good times, we were each other’s sidekick. In not-so-good times we were each other’s crying shoulder. At times, we pulled each other out of the deep water. At other times, we shared laughs and inside jokes. We went on double dates with our boyfriends. We even went back to college together, spent long hours studying together and sharing our life experiences.
Through the years, jobs, second marriages and moves put some physical distance between us, but we did not let that dampen our spirit or, worse, ruin our relationship. Whenever possible, we visited each other on long weekends and reminisced about the past. We were proud of our kids who were all grown up and successful in their personal and professional lives.
When we couldn’t see each other, we called, emailed or chatted on social media.
For the fall of 2019, we had planned a reunion with some of our other friends. But that summer everything changed when Sabitha called me about health issues. I traveled to Milwaukee to be with her. My heart broke to see her in a hospital bed, hooked up to wires. That was then.
Now, 16 months later, she is gone and I have a huge hole in my soul.
At night, I pray to see her in my dream and I promise that I will hug her and not let her go. Other times, I remember her unconditional love, her vivacious personality, our thousands of memories, millions of laughs. That brings a big smile to my face. At the same time I feel like I am drowning in my own tear drops.
To all of you, Bryan, Jenni, Wayne, her grandchildren, Indra and all of her other family members whom I have not had the pleasure of meeting -- I am deeply sorry you lost such a remarkable angel, such a beautiful soul. But please rest assured that, though she may not be here physically, her spirit will be with you eternally.
I am also grateful to Wayne for keeping me informed of her condition almost daily. Thank you, Wayne.
I had one biological sister and one adopted sister. Sadly, this year I lost both -- one in spring and now one in the fall.
Sabitha, dearest, I will cherish our precious memories as long as I live. You may be out of sight for now, but you will be in my heart and mind until we see each other again. Rest in Peace. I love you.
Michelle Schneider
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Thinking of you all today.
Lots of love
Michelle
Jean Thornhill
left a message on December 5, 2020:
I met Beci thru Indra, the few times that we were together Beci was always smiling. Indra and Beci talked about all the family memories and we would have a good laugh. I could tell that Beci loved her family and grandchildren and I know that she will be missed by many. Beci you are no longer in pain and heaven has now received a beautiful angel. My condolences to all the family.
Kim Roloff
left a message on December 5, 2020:
I'll always remember this strong lovely gracious lady as a generous thoughtful and kind human being. Never a negative word did I hear. Such a bright ray of sunshine.. She will be greatly missed
Nancy Keskey-Mlachnik
left a message on December 5, 2020:
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Nicola. Mohtram
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Auntie Beci was a ray of sunshine, who radianced much warmth, kindness and love. She had a lust for life and this shined through.
I used to get excited to see auntie Beci when she would travel over from the States throughout the years and tell us stories about her family, she would always bring us lovely gifts and lots of American candy. We spent day trips exploring Dunwich Beach and nacton shores. Beci was an awesome cook and I loved the carrot cake she made us.
We had so much fun in Vegas doing lots of fun activities and games for Lauras hen party which Beci got involved in.
We will cherish the lovely memories we have of you and keep them close to our hearts forever ❤️ we love you lots.
Sudesh Hariparshad
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Our deepest condolences to the family and friends of Sabitha. Thank you for being the light in so many lives.
Clare Overman
left a message on December 4, 2020:
In memory of Sabitha Devi Du Vall, Clare Overman lit a candle
Laura Devi
left a message on December 4, 2020:
Hi, this is Laura one of Beci’s nieces from Ipswich.
I first remember meeting Beci, when I was a toddler. She would take me to the local park (Christchurch Park) to feed the ducks. At the time, I was at my Nannies house and Beci must have been visiting from America on one of her many family visits. There would be many of these over the coming years.
In particular, Beci and Wayne held an anniversary party at Snape just outside Ipswich.
It was a lovely time having all the family together. plenty of food, drinks and dancing. Beci loved to entertain which would always show in many more family catch ups. She had such strong family values, which is a trait she has passed down to her children Bryan and Jenni.
I remember visiting Wisconsin in 2004 with my Dad, Mum and sister Carly.
When we arrived at Homestead, Beci had a whole book load of ideas on what we could do and where we could go. Beci loved to plan, she had that get up and go attitude. We took bike rides, camping trips (where Beci would make her delicious BBQ potatoes)
I remember we took a trip to the “famous” water park in Wisconsin where we all went down this extremely high waterslide on rubber rings (Even Beci) and we came out the other end looking like drowned rats, it was fun, Beci made things fun and she had a carpe diem attitude about life!
When Lee and me got married in Las Vegas, Beci and Indra hosted an en-suite bachelorette party. Well, when the “entertainment” arrived my aunties (Beci and Indra) ran to hide in the bathroom from embarrassment, never to be seen again. Beci did have a cheeky personality!
Furthermore, she was the kind of person that you could sit down and talk with, Beci did love to talk :) but not about herself but about others. she had a lot of empathy for other people and a caring nature.
I’m glad we got to spend the last few summers with Beci, Bryan, Jenni & Co. We had such lovely trips to New York, Garrison, Lake Tahoe, Novato, San Francisco.
2019 would be the last time we would see and spend with Beci. We had a lovely summer and we spent time chatty, laughing and eating yummy food!
A kind, generous, strong, bubbly Auntie. I thank you for all those lovely memories.
I know you are in a safer place now, no more suffering: it’s the family you leave behind that will continue to honour your memory.
Please give my Mum a hug when you see her. I know you are with the rest of the family too and until we all meet again one day....
Rest in Peace,
Love from Laura, Lee, Evelyn and Jacob
(P.S this was a picture taken from Beci’s visit in 2015 to England: we were out hunting for UF0’s in Rendelsham Forest with my Dad, her brother Jay)
Indra Hill
left a message on December 3, 2020:
Dear Beci:
I remember the day you left England to move to the U.S. We were in the middle of the departure terminal at Heathrow and we had just hugged and said our final goodbyes. Clutching Connie tightly, I sobbed and sobbed. I felt such a sense of loss and emptiness. That feeling came back again when you passed on the 21st November. I feel it just as strongly sitting here in your guest bedroom trying to write my memories, still in utter disbelief.
Growing up we had very different personalities. You were outgoing, chatty and questioned everything; whereas I was more introverted and just happy to tag along. During those years, we were each other’s best friend. Our playroom was the upstairs hall cupboard where we would make-up all sorts of games. Other-times, it was playing in the old Anderson shelter in our overgrown backyard. It was a wonder we survived our childhood. I remember both of us climbing on top of the corrugated shelter and sliding down its rusty sides. No jeans, just a dress and bare legs. The best times were walks and picnics over Bixley Heath, Holywells Park and the Depot. We had a charmed childhood; so much freedom to play and use our imaginations. Maybe that’s where our urge to travel and experience new things came from.
Years later, after Ed, Connie, Roger and I were living in the U.S. we took Bryan, Jenni and Roger on a road trip. We started out in Utah and travelled through Arizona, into Mexico and back home to Utah. That was a particularly memorable trip! Returning to Arizona from a day trip to Mexico we (or rather you) were detained at re-entry into the U.S. because you had no identification. For safe keeping, you had left it at Auntie Betty’s house in Phoenix. It took some convincing you weren’t an illegal trying to gain entry into the U.S; however, you were finally able to convince the border authorities you were a “bonafide” U.S. citizen. Our trips always included a little drama and a lot of laughs. I learned to always expect the unexpected traveling with you, that’s what made it fun.
In many ways you were an inspiration to me; in particular, when you graduated college. I was able to attended your graduation ceremony and I was so proud of you. Through adversity and as a single parent, you worked full-time and graduated with a Business Degree; I was inspired me to do the same. I’ve never worked so hard in my life but I, finally, graduated with my degree. Thank you Beci!!!
There are so many more memories I could share, but really only one thing I want to tell you: I miss your presence! But I know how hard you fought and I wouldn’t want you to stay only to endure more pain. My last words to you were, “it’s time to fly now Beci” - well I hope you are enjoying the ride and spending time with family and friends that have completed their journey.
I hope you are there to meet me when Its my turn.
Much love and hugs.
Indra
Krishun Mohtram
left a message on December 3, 2020:
Sabitha or Beci as she was called by her Family, was my Eldest Sister.
When I started High School, I was reminded on the first day by a Teacher, that our family name was well known and that we had a good reputation in the School. That belief had been forged by my
2 older siblings, led by the eldest, Beci. By her hard work, she had set standard for us to follow. That example made our whole school journey a lot easier.
Since that time, she continued to lead the way. She was first of the siblings to travel across a vast ocean, to the USA, as a result of being a 'GI bride'. We only knew of the USA through the narrow lens of Cinema films, a Black and White TV and English Newspapers. It seemed to offer through our child-like eyes, a very different lifestyle. One far removed and very different from that offered in this country and the small town of Ipswich, where we were all brought up. It must have been very daunting for her. But she liked it and eventual became an US citizen. During her time, she was able to raise 2 wonderful children, Bryan and Jenny. Later, other family members and myself from the UK and South Africa, managed to travel to the US to meet up with her. Thus we were able to maintain family bonds, despite the vast distances involved. This was only possible because of she was so family orientated.
During her many years in the USA, Beci was able to gain a stable job with the Miller Brewing company and met may friends. Beci loved cycling and whether with family or friends, she would spend many joyful hours on her bike with them. She was the first family member to involve herself in volunteer work for those in need. As a result, a lot of money was raised, via various activites. They included sponsored bike rides. In later life, I followed her example and also took up volunteer work.
When she diagnosed with AML, it was her turn to receive help, as she was then in need. Hence strangers, friends, immediate and wider family rushed to give her the support that she so desperately needed. Support that led her to feel cared for in her last year and moments of life on his earth.
I have been gifted to see her climb a Stairway to a Doorway, leading to another world. Through which, emanated a Glorious, brilliant, radiant, Divine light into the darkness. Now Sister Beci, you can rest in the Eternal Peace and Unconditional Love that it offers. Both Worlds are linked through loving thoughts, which which are closer than our own breath. Thus we can still connect, albeit not physically.
Therefore it need not be the end, as she exists in Spirit.
Jay Mohtram
left a message on December 3, 2020:
Hello and thank you everyone who is gathered here today to memorialize my sister Beci.
I am Jay, Beci's youngest brother, or as she affectionately used to call me 'her baby brother'..
I am sorry I cannot attend here today due to the covid restrictions, but will be viewing by the video link from England.
Even though today is a such a sad event I hope everyone can hold their heads high when we think of and remember Beci.
She would want us to celebrate her life and speak about her achievements and fond memories
with smiles on our faces.
Even though she was 8 years older then me I always had very fond memories of us growing up
together in our home town of Ipswich in England.
I remember her helping me to get dressed, painting my face, teaching me to draw in colouring books and taking me for long
walks over parks and watching the steam trains pass by on a nearby rail track.
Once she told me that when I was a baby, she pushed me to the nearby shops in a pram.
When she returned home, she discovered to her horror she had left me at the shops and so she dashed back to the shops and found me smiling to all the mothers who had stopped and gathered around to admire me.
I was safe.. but she didn't dare tell my Mother about that!
During our childhood, times were hard for us all, but she always remained positive, had a smile and had a depth of character
about herself.
Once I remember her and sister Indra both screaming madly at our tv, because the Beatles were performing on there.
This was our taste of Beatlemania.
Thanks Beci and Indra.
When she was older she got a job, with her sister Indra at the local theatre called the Gaumont, both as usherettes.
She told me fondly of meeting and getting the autographs of famous groups such as the Rolling Stones, The Kinks and
The Walker Brothers, to name a few.
Later in life she married and emigrated to America. She would send regular letters back home to us where we read
everything with relish about her life and experiences in Milwaukee.
Later she included photographs of herself and also of her newborn babies Bryan and Jenni.
Over the years she made many numerous trips back to England. She always loved the company of her family when she was
back here and loved to talk and find out what was happening. And she always had a good ear and listened intently.
Over the years I also have visited the States and always been welcomed by Beci and Wayne at their house in Homestead.
She was always suggesting and arranging different places for me to visit.
Most notably was in 2017 when I visited to watch the solar eclipse in your country. We drove down in her and Wayne's camper van in the company of their friends Kathy and Frank to South Illinois to watch this event.
It ended with a tipple of Beci's favourite drink as I remember.
Sadly this was the last time I would see Beci.
I was terribly saddened to learn of her initial illness.
It is hard to accept that she is no longer with us and it is difficult to understand how life works sometimes.
I take comfort to know now Beci is in a peaceful place. I will miss her dearly and will never forget what a lovely sister
she was and a warm caring human being also.
She will live in my heart forever.
Bless you Beci and thank you for everything.
From your loving brother
Jay
xxxx
Sent from Yahoo Mail for iPhone
Cathy Binko-DeRaimo
left a message on December 3, 2020:
Dear Sabitha,
You’ve made such a meaningful impression on me, and I feel so very blessed for your friendship! You've always been a kind, warm, fun-loving and thoughtful friend; thank you for all the days you've made brighter just by being you. Frank and I will make sure Wayne is doing okay; I know Frank enjoys his friendship, they are buds.
I wish we could have more time together, but want you to know I will always cherish the times we've shared, I'm grateful for every one of them. What a fun time camping, finding new adventures, and ballroom dancing… I hope one day we will dance together again!
I will always remember your hugs, your grace and your friendship, and how courageous you were with your fight. And even though our time as friends on this earth just seems too short-lived and I already miss you, my heart will feel full of love when I think of you. Rest and feel at peace my dear loving friend.
With love,
Cathy
Rishi Verma
left a message on December 3, 2020:
In memory of Sabitha Devi Du Vall, Rishi Verma lit a candle
Rishi Verma
left a message on December 3, 2020:
When I think of Sabitha, I always think of how kind and caring she was.
Back in 2010, I was in Milwaukee on a short term project and Jenni had informed her mom that her friend was in town.
I recall that Sabitha and Wayne would visit me and they would take me to places nearby. Almost every weekend I stayed back in Milwaukee, she had something planned for me. With her, I visited a famous local ice cream shop, Miller Factory and Sears tower in Chicago.
It meant so much to me that she did all that just because I was Jenni's friend.
When we visited Chicago, she made it a point to show me the place where Jenni lived during her time in Chicago. In fact, every time she talked about Bryan and Jenni; I could sense the pride she had in what her kids had accomplished.
I am attaching here the picture of one of the light moments we had during our visit to the Sears tower. Wayne had to practically pull her into the Skydeck all the time while Sabitha had her eyes closed. Once on the deck, she stood there nervously as I clicked few pictures. She never looked down during that time and once she was off, all of us had a great laugh about it.
May she rest in peace. My sincere sympathy to her family and loved ones. May the universe give all of you the strength to cope with this immeasurable loss.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Gail Perszewski
left a message on December 3, 2020:
Sabitha Wonderful, smiling Sabitha. How I wish I could reach over and hug you. I’m so glad and so blessed to have met you. The wonderful times we got to spend time together, learning the cha cha at Top Floor, helping Mrs Cathy with dance camp, setting up our work area in the closet at Brookfield ballroom, working together at Christmas Dances at St Al’s. You were always smiling, especially when you got a break and went out on the dance floor with your loving husband. Even better when you the two of you got to join dance friends in a performance. Thank you for all the joy. I’m so glad our paths crossed in this life.
I wish you love and peace.
Your loving friend,
Gail
Jennifer Janeczko
left a message on December 1, 2020:
Words can’t express all that you mean to me, all that you have done for me, all that you have taught me, all the great adventures we have shared, and how much I miss you. I miss you every day mom and I will do my best to make you proud. Your loving daughter, Jenni
Mahin Motamedi Witowski
left a message on November 30, 2020:
Tribute to Sabitha Mohtram Du Vall
By: Mahin Motamedi Witkowski
She was sunshine. She was life itself with an enormously generous heart.
She was an ocean of love, sincerity, integrity – the strongest warrior; the most courageous person I have ever known.
To me, she was more than a best friend; she was my sister.
It was a sunny spring morning when we met for the first time. It was my first day at Miller Brewing Company and I was pondering over my day’s priorities when her soft voice broke the train of my thoughts.
“Good morning,” she said.
I looked up and saw in front of me a very attractive young lady with the sweetest smile I had ever seen.
“Good morning,” I echoed.
“My name is Sabitha and I just wanted to welcome you,” she said with a very warm English accent. “If you need anything please let me know. My desk is around the corner.”
That was 1978 and our first step toward our life-long relationship. Back then, I was raising my daughter, Tatiana, and she had her hands full with her two children, Bryan and Jennifer. We were single mothers. For both of us, America was our new home.
From then on, we were there for each other 24/7. In good times, we were each other’s sidekick. In not-so-good times we were each other’s crying shoulder. At times, we pulled each other out of the deep water. At other times, we shared laughs and inside jokes. We went on double dates with our boyfriends. We even went back to college together, spent long hours, studying together and sharing our life experiences.
Through the years, jobs, second marriages and moves put some physical distance between us, but we did not let that dampen our spirit or, worse, ruin our relationship. Whenever possible, we visited each other on long weekends and reminisced about the past. We were proud of our kids who were all grown up and successful in their personal and professional lives.
When we couldn’t see each other, we called, emailed or chatted on social media.
For the fall of 2019, we had planned a reunion with some of our other friends. But that summer everything changed when Sabitha called me about health issues. I traveled to Milwaukee to be with her. My heart broke to see her in a hospital bed, hooked up to wires. That was then.
Now, 16 months later, she is gone and I have a huge hole in my soul.
At night, I pray to see her in my dream and I promise that I will hug her and not let her go. Other times, I remember her unconditional love, her vivacious personality, our thousands of memories, millions of laughs. That brings a big smile to my face. At the same time I feel like I am drowning in my own tear drops.
To all of you, Bryan, Jenni, Wayne, her grandchildren, Indra and all of her other family members whom I have not had the pleasure of meeting -- I am deeply sorry you lost such a remarkable angel, such a beautiful soul. But please rest assured that, though she may not be here physically, her spirit will be with you eternally.
I am also grateful to Wayne for keeping me informed of her condition almost daily. Thank you, Wayne.
I had one biological sister and one adopted sister. Sadly, this year I lost both -- one in spring and now one in the fall.
Sabitha, dearest, I will cherish our precious memories as long as I live. You may be out of sight for now, but you will be in my heart and mind until we see each other again. Rest in Peace. I love you.
Elizabeth KiLand
left a message on November 30, 2020:
Tribute for Sabitha
It is with great sadness, but also an honor an privilege, to share my thoughts and feelings with you about my dear friend Sabitha today.
It is through the world of dance that Mark and I got to know Sabitha and Wayne, who warmly welcomed us newcomers to the dance community. This was our first introduction to the abundant kindness of Sabitha and Wayne. As we cultivated a deeper friendship with them over the years, we got to know them better and I forged a special bond with Sabitha.
Sabitha was one of the kindness people I have ever known. She only had good-hearted words to say about others and loved bringing people together to share joyous events. One of her hopes, which was unfortunately dashed by her illness and the pandemic, was to host a gathering of family and friends to celebrate her milestone 70th birthday. When that was not possible, Sabitha was elated to discover that her family had planned a zoom birthday celebration with relatives and friends from different corners of the world. Sabitha shared with me that poems were read, songs were sung, laughter and loving thoughts were expressed and it brought her so much happiness.
In addition to her infinite kindness and generosity of spirit, Sabitha had immeasurable love of life, people, dance and adventure. Whenever a new plan or idea was proposed, Sabitha was in and ready to go. We created many shared memories which are now so cherished. Her warm sense of humor, her love of travel and her infinite interests always made conversation lively, fun and engaging.
Sabitha approached adversity with hopefulness. Even when facing her darkest hour, a diagnosis of advanced leukemia, she remained steadfast in her hope that she could overcome this disease and showed amazing courage, grace and dignity. And even as the disease advanced, she never gave up or missed an opportunity to share life’s precious moments with others when she was having a “good day.”
Sabitha’s greatest love and the force that sustained her was her family. Her children and grandchildren were her pride and joy and she delighted in telling anecdotes about the grandchildren’s latest antics. And Wayne, your love, support and caring heart meant the world to her.
Sabitha was an amazing friend. Even as she was fighting for her own life, she somehow found the resources within to provide me with support in my hour of need. I will never forget that. Sabitha’s presence was a gift to all who knew her and her indomitable spirit will live on in our hearts and minds.
Wayne DuVall
left a message on November 25, 2020:
My lovely wife Sabitha
Since your diagnosis with Acute Myeloid Leukemia (AML) in July of 2019, you went thru an exceedingly difficult time. It was a time that consisted of you going into and out of remission. You were determined to beat the AML and it showed.
Unfortunately, things did not work out as we hoped.
The picture represents a time that was incredibly special to the both of us. We had a great time.
You are and always will be my dance partner and the love of my life. I will miss you dearly. Our friends, family, and I all love you and grieve at your loss. When you were lying in the bed, I asked you to be waiting for me when I get there, and you said you would. I’m going to hold you to that. Until we meet again.
Your loving husband Wayne
bryan janeczko
left a message on November 24, 2020:
Mom,
You've shown such courage during your battle with AML. You're such an inspiration for us all. For me, I saw first hand how you would never give up--- so incredibly brave. I did want to share a special moment with our family and friends. Shortly before your diagnosis in 2019, we had an incredible dinner together at Lincoln Ristorante when you last visited New York City. It was an extraordinary evening. I will continue to toast our culinary adventures together eternally. I love you!
Your son,
Bryan
Laura Devi
left a message on November 24, 2020:
Rest In Peace Auntie Beci,
You will never be forgotten, out of pain and no more suffering. I will cherish the memories we hold forever more. Sorely missed,
Laura, Lee and kiddies
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Margaret Chavez
left a message on December 5, 2020:
In memory of Sabitha Devi Du Vall, Margaret Chavez lit a candle
Helen wilce
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Im lighting a candle in rememberance of my lovely cousin beci , lots of fond memories of when we were all children together especially on holidays. Beci was always the life and soul of the party and will be sorely missed by all her knew her. Lots of love helen xx
Danna West
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all right now
Ronald Schulz
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Jennifer and I have been neighbors for years we have enjoyed looking at Sabithas beautiful flower gardens, she added new flowers every year. We will miss seeing her out planting and watering but her memory will always be with us as we continue to enjoy all her hard work in her. Our thoughts and prayers will continue to be with you.
David Brenner
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Marcie and I want you to know that Sabitha will always be in our thoughts. She was such a wonderful, loving, and caring person. We will miss her.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Mahin Motamedi Witkowski
left a message on December 5, 2020:
She was sunshine. She was life itself with an enormously generous heart.
She was an ocean of love, sincerity, integrity – the strongest warrior; the most courageous person I have ever known.
To me, she was more than a best friend; she was my sister.
It was a sunny spring morning when we met for the first time. It was my first day at Miller Brewing Company and I was pondering over my day’s priorities when her soft voice broke the train of my thoughts.
“Good morning,” she said.
I looked up and saw in front of me a very attractive young lady with the sweetest smile I had ever seen.
“Good morning,” I echoed.
“My name is Sabitha and I just wanted to welcome you,” she said with a very warm English accent. “If you need anything please let me know. My desk is around the corner.”
That was 1978 and our first step toward our life-long relationship. Back then, I was raising my daughter, Tatiana, and she had her hands full with her two children, Bryan and Jennifer. We were single mothers. For both of us, America was our new home.
From then on, we were there for each other 24/7. In good times, we were each other’s sidekick. In not-so-good times we were each other’s crying shoulder. At times, we pulled each other out of the deep water. At other times, we shared laughs and inside jokes. We went on double dates with our boyfriends. We even went back to college together, spent long hours studying together and sharing our life experiences.
Through the years, jobs, second marriages and moves put some physical distance between us, but we did not let that dampen our spirit or, worse, ruin our relationship. Whenever possible, we visited each other on long weekends and reminisced about the past. We were proud of our kids who were all grown up and successful in their personal and professional lives.
When we couldn’t see each other, we called, emailed or chatted on social media.
For the fall of 2019, we had planned a reunion with some of our other friends. But that summer everything changed when Sabitha called me about health issues. I traveled to Milwaukee to be with her. My heart broke to see her in a hospital bed, hooked up to wires. That was then.
Now, 16 months later, she is gone and I have a huge hole in my soul.
At night, I pray to see her in my dream and I promise that I will hug her and not let her go. Other times, I remember her unconditional love, her vivacious personality, our thousands of memories, millions of laughs. That brings a big smile to my face. At the same time I feel like I am drowning in my own tear drops.
To all of you, Bryan, Jenni, Wayne, her grandchildren, Indra and all of her other family members whom I have not had the pleasure of meeting -- I am deeply sorry you lost such a remarkable angel, such a beautiful soul. But please rest assured that, though she may not be here physically, her spirit will be with you eternally.
I am also grateful to Wayne for keeping me informed of her condition almost daily. Thank you, Wayne.
I had one biological sister and one adopted sister. Sadly, this year I lost both -- one in spring and now one in the fall.
Sabitha, dearest, I will cherish our precious memories as long as I live. You may be out of sight for now, but you will be in my heart and mind until we see each other again. Rest in Peace. I love you.
Michelle Schneider
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Thinking of you all today.
Lots of love
Michelle
Jean Thornhill
left a message on December 5, 2020:
I met Beci thru Indra, the few times that we were together Beci was always smiling. Indra and Beci talked about all the family memories and we would have a good laugh. I could tell that Beci loved her family and grandchildren and I know that she will be missed by many. Beci you are no longer in pain and heaven has now received a beautiful angel. My condolences to all the family.
Kim Roloff
left a message on December 5, 2020:
I'll always remember this strong lovely gracious lady as a generous thoughtful and kind human being. Never a negative word did I hear. Such a bright ray of sunshine.. She will be greatly missed
Nancy Keskey-Mlachnik
left a message on December 5, 2020:
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Nicola. Mohtram
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Auntie Beci was a ray of sunshine, who radianced much warmth, kindness and love. She had a lust for life and this shined through.
I used to get excited to see auntie Beci when she would travel over from the States throughout the years and tell us stories about her family, she would always bring us lovely gifts and lots of American candy. We spent day trips exploring Dunwich Beach and nacton shores. Beci was an awesome cook and I loved the carrot cake she made us.
We had so much fun in Vegas doing lots of fun activities and games for Lauras hen party which Beci got involved in.
We will cherish the lovely memories we have of you and keep them close to our hearts forever ❤️ we love you lots.
Sudesh Hariparshad
left a message on December 5, 2020:
Our deepest condolences to the family and friends of Sabitha. Thank you for being the light in so many lives.
Clare Overman
left a message on December 4, 2020:
In memory of Sabitha Devi Du Vall, Clare Overman lit a candle
Laura Devi
left a message on December 4, 2020:
Hi, this is Laura one of Beci’s nieces from Ipswich.
I first remember meeting Beci, when I was a toddler. She would take me to the local park (Christchurch Park) to feed the ducks. At the time, I was at my Nannies house and Beci must have been visiting from America on one of her many family visits. There would be many of these over the coming years.
In particular, Beci and Wayne held an anniversary party at Snape just outside Ipswich.
It was a lovely time having all the family together. plenty of food, drinks and dancing. Beci loved to entertain which would always show in many more family catch ups. She had such strong family values, which is a trait she has passed down to her children Bryan and Jenni.
I remember visiting Wisconsin in 2004 with my Dad, Mum and sister Carly.
When we arrived at Homestead, Beci had a whole book load of ideas on what we could do and where we could go. Beci loved to plan, she had that get up and go attitude. We took bike rides, camping trips (where Beci would make her delicious BBQ potatoes)
I remember we took a trip to the “famous” water park in Wisconsin where we all went down this extremely high waterslide on rubber rings (Even Beci) and we came out the other end looking like drowned rats, it was fun, Beci made things fun and she had a carpe diem attitude about life!
When Lee and me got married in Las Vegas, Beci and Indra hosted an en-suite bachelorette party. Well, when the “entertainment” arrived my aunties (Beci and Indra) ran to hide in the bathroom from embarrassment, never to be seen again. Beci did have a cheeky personality!
Furthermore, she was the kind of person that you could sit down and talk with, Beci did love to talk :) but not about herself but about others. she had a lot of empathy for other people and a caring nature.
I’m glad we got to spend the last few summers with Beci, Bryan, Jenni & Co. We had such lovely trips to New York, Garrison, Lake Tahoe, Novato, San Francisco.
2019 would be the last time we would see and spend with Beci. We had a lovely summer and we spent time chatty, laughing and eating yummy food!
A kind, generous, strong, bubbly Auntie. I thank you for all those lovely memories.
I know you are in a safer place now, no more suffering: it’s the family you leave behind that will continue to honour your memory.
Please give my Mum a hug when you see her. I know you are with the rest of the family too and until we all meet again one day....
Rest in Peace,
Love from Laura, Lee, Evelyn and Jacob
(P.S this was a picture taken from Beci’s visit in 2015 to England: we were out hunting for UF0’s in Rendelsham Forest with my Dad, her brother Jay)
Indra Hill
left a message on December 3, 2020:
Dear Beci:
I remember the day you left England to move to the U.S. We were in the middle of the departure terminal at Heathrow and we had just hugged and said our final goodbyes. Clutching Connie tightly, I sobbed and sobbed. I felt such a sense of loss and emptiness. That feeling came back again when you passed on the 21st November. I feel it just as strongly sitting here in your guest bedroom trying to write my memories, still in utter disbelief.
Growing up we had very different personalities. You were outgoing, chatty and questioned everything; whereas I was more introverted and just happy to tag along. During those years, we were each other’s best friend. Our playroom was the upstairs hall cupboard where we would make-up all sorts of games. Other-times, it was playing in the old Anderson shelter in our overgrown backyard. It was a wonder we survived our childhood. I remember both of us climbing on top of the corrugated shelter and sliding down its rusty sides. No jeans, just a dress and bare legs. The best times were walks and picnics over Bixley Heath, Holywells Park and the Depot. We had a charmed childhood; so much freedom to play and use our imaginations. Maybe that’s where our urge to travel and experience new things came from.
Years later, after Ed, Connie, Roger and I were living in the U.S. we took Bryan, Jenni and Roger on a road trip. We started out in Utah and travelled through Arizona, into Mexico and back home to Utah. That was a particularly memorable trip! Returning to Arizona from a day trip to Mexico we (or rather you) were detained at re-entry into the U.S. because you had no identification. For safe keeping, you had left it at Auntie Betty’s house in Phoenix. It took some convincing you weren’t an illegal trying to gain entry into the U.S; however, you were finally able to convince the border authorities you were a “bonafide” U.S. citizen. Our trips always included a little drama and a lot of laughs. I learned to always expect the unexpected traveling with you, that’s what made it fun.
In many ways you were an inspiration to me; in particular, when you graduated college. I was able to attended your graduation ceremony and I was so proud of you. Through adversity and as a single parent, you worked full-time and graduated with a Business Degree; I was inspired me to do the same. I’ve never worked so hard in my life but I, finally, graduated with my degree. Thank you Beci!!!
There are so many more memories I could share, but really only one thing I want to tell you: I miss your presence! But I know how hard you fought and I wouldn’t want you to stay only to endure more pain. My last words to you were, “it’s time to fly now Beci” - well I hope you are enjoying the ride and spending time with family and friends that have completed their journey.
I hope you are there to meet me when Its my turn.
Much love and hugs.
Indra
Krishun Mohtram
left a message on December 3, 2020:
Sabitha or Beci as she was called by her Family, was my Eldest Sister.
When I started High School, I was reminded on the first day by a Teacher, that our family name was well known and that we had a good reputation in the School. That belief had been forged by my
2 older siblings, led by the eldest, Beci. By her hard work, she had set standard for us to follow. That example made our whole school journey a lot easier.
Since that time, she continued to lead the way. She was first of the siblings to travel across a vast ocean, to the USA, as a result of being a 'GI bride'. We only knew of the USA through the narrow lens of Cinema films, a Black and White TV and English Newspapers. It seemed to offer through our child-like eyes, a very different lifestyle. One far removed and very different from that offered in this country and the small town of Ipswich, where we were all brought up. It must have been very daunting for her. But she liked it and eventual became an US citizen. During her time, she was able to raise 2 wonderful children, Bryan and Jenny. Later, other family members and myself from the UK and South Africa, managed to travel to the US to meet up with her. Thus we were able to maintain family bonds, despite the vast distances involved. This was only possible because of she was so family orientated.
During her many years in the USA, Beci was able to gain a stable job with the Miller Brewing company and met may friends. Beci loved cycling and whether with family or friends, she would spend many joyful hours on her bike with them. She was the first family member to involve herself in volunteer work for those in need. As a result, a lot of money was raised, via various activites. They included sponsored bike rides. In later life, I followed her example and also took up volunteer work.
When she diagnosed with AML, it was her turn to receive help, as she was then in need. Hence strangers, friends, immediate and wider family rushed to give her the support that she so desperately needed. Support that led her to feel cared for in her last year and moments of life on his earth.
I have been gifted to see her climb a Stairway to a Doorway, leading to another world. Through which, emanated a Glorious, brilliant, radiant, Divine light into the darkness. Now Sister Beci, you can rest in the Eternal Peace and Unconditional Love that it offers. Both Worlds are linked through loving thoughts, which which are closer than our own breath. Thus we can still connect, albeit not physically.
Therefore it need not be the end, as she exists in Spirit.
Jay Mohtram
left a message on December 3, 2020:
Hello and thank you everyone who is gathered here today to memorialize my sister Beci.
I am Jay, Beci's youngest brother, or as she affectionately used to call me 'her baby brother'..
I am sorry I cannot attend here today due to the covid restrictions, but will be viewing by the video link from England.
Even though today is a such a sad event I hope everyone can hold their heads high when we think of and remember Beci.
She would want us to celebrate her life and speak about her achievements and fond memories
with smiles on our faces.
Even though she was 8 years older then me I always had very fond memories of us growing up
together in our home town of Ipswich in England.
I remember her helping me to get dressed, painting my face, teaching me to draw in colouring books and taking me for long
walks over parks and watching the steam trains pass by on a nearby rail track.
Once she told me that when I was a baby, she pushed me to the nearby shops in a pram.
When she returned home, she discovered to her horror she had left me at the shops and so she dashed back to the shops and found me smiling to all the mothers who had stopped and gathered around to admire me.
I was safe.. but she didn't dare tell my Mother about that!
During our childhood, times were hard for us all, but she always remained positive, had a smile and had a depth of character
about herself.
Once I remember her and sister Indra both screaming madly at our tv, because the Beatles were performing on there.
This was our taste of Beatlemania.
Thanks Beci and Indra.
When she was older she got a job, with her sister Indra at the local theatre called the Gaumont, both as usherettes.
She told me fondly of meeting and getting the autographs of famous groups such as the Rolling Stones, The Kinks and
The Walker Brothers, to name a few.
Later in life she married and emigrated to America. She would send regular letters back home to us where we read
everything with relish about her life and experiences in Milwaukee.
Later she included photographs of herself and also of her newborn babies Bryan and Jenni.
Over the years she made many numerous trips back to England. She always loved the company of her family when she was
back here and loved to talk and find out what was happening. And she always had a good ear and listened intently.
Over the years I also have visited the States and always been welcomed by Beci and Wayne at their house in Homestead.
She was always suggesting and arranging different places for me to visit.
Most notably was in 2017 when I visited to watch the solar eclipse in your country. We drove down in her and Wayne's camper van in the company of their friends Kathy and Frank to South Illinois to watch this event.
It ended with a tipple of Beci's favourite drink as I remember.
Sadly this was the last time I would see Beci.
I was terribly saddened to learn of her initial illness.
It is hard to accept that she is no longer with us and it is difficult to understand how life works sometimes.
I take comfort to know now Beci is in a peaceful place. I will miss her dearly and will never forget what a lovely sister
she was and a warm caring human being also.
She will live in my heart forever.
Bless you Beci and thank you for everything.
From your loving brother
Jay
xxxx
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Cathy Binko-DeRaimo
left a message on December 3, 2020:
Dear Sabitha,
You’ve made such a meaningful impression on me, and I feel so very blessed for your friendship! You've always been a kind, warm, fun-loving and thoughtful friend; thank you for all the days you've made brighter just by being you. Frank and I will make sure Wayne is doing okay; I know Frank enjoys his friendship, they are buds.
I wish we could have more time together, but want you to know I will always cherish the times we've shared, I'm grateful for every one of them. What a fun time camping, finding new adventures, and ballroom dancing… I hope one day we will dance together again!
I will always remember your hugs, your grace and your friendship, and how courageous you were with your fight. And even though our time as friends on this earth just seems too short-lived and I already miss you, my heart will feel full of love when I think of you. Rest and feel at peace my dear loving friend.
With love,
Cathy
Rishi Verma
left a message on December 3, 2020:
In memory of Sabitha Devi Du Vall, Rishi Verma lit a candle
Rishi Verma
left a message on December 3, 2020:
When I think of Sabitha, I always think of how kind and caring she was.
Back in 2010, I was in Milwaukee on a short term project and Jenni had informed her mom that her friend was in town.
I recall that Sabitha and Wayne would visit me and they would take me to places nearby. Almost every weekend I stayed back in Milwaukee, she had something planned for me. With her, I visited a famous local ice cream shop, Miller Factory and Sears tower in Chicago.
It meant so much to me that she did all that just because I was Jenni's friend.
When we visited Chicago, she made it a point to show me the place where Jenni lived during her time in Chicago. In fact, every time she talked about Bryan and Jenni; I could sense the pride she had in what her kids had accomplished.
I am attaching here the picture of one of the light moments we had during our visit to the Sears tower. Wayne had to practically pull her into the Skydeck all the time while Sabitha had her eyes closed. Once on the deck, she stood there nervously as I clicked few pictures. She never looked down during that time and once she was off, all of us had a great laugh about it.
May she rest in peace. My sincere sympathy to her family and loved ones. May the universe give all of you the strength to cope with this immeasurable loss.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Gail Perszewski
left a message on December 3, 2020:
Sabitha Wonderful, smiling Sabitha. How I wish I could reach over and hug you. I’m so glad and so blessed to have met you. The wonderful times we got to spend time together, learning the cha cha at Top Floor, helping Mrs Cathy with dance camp, setting up our work area in the closet at Brookfield ballroom, working together at Christmas Dances at St Al’s. You were always smiling, especially when you got a break and went out on the dance floor with your loving husband. Even better when you the two of you got to join dance friends in a performance. Thank you for all the joy. I’m so glad our paths crossed in this life.
I wish you love and peace.
Your loving friend,
Gail
Jennifer Janeczko
left a message on December 1, 2020:
Words can’t express all that you mean to me, all that you have done for me, all that you have taught me, all the great adventures we have shared, and how much I miss you. I miss you every day mom and I will do my best to make you proud. Your loving daughter, Jenni
Mahin Motamedi Witowski
left a message on November 30, 2020:
Tribute to Sabitha Mohtram Du Vall
By: Mahin Motamedi Witkowski
She was sunshine. She was life itself with an enormously generous heart.
She was an ocean of love, sincerity, integrity – the strongest warrior; the most courageous person I have ever known.
To me, she was more than a best friend; she was my sister.
It was a sunny spring morning when we met for the first time. It was my first day at Miller Brewing Company and I was pondering over my day’s priorities when her soft voice broke the train of my thoughts.
“Good morning,” she said.
I looked up and saw in front of me a very attractive young lady with the sweetest smile I had ever seen.
“Good morning,” I echoed.
“My name is Sabitha and I just wanted to welcome you,” she said with a very warm English accent. “If you need anything please let me know. My desk is around the corner.”
That was 1978 and our first step toward our life-long relationship. Back then, I was raising my daughter, Tatiana, and she had her hands full with her two children, Bryan and Jennifer. We were single mothers. For both of us, America was our new home.
From then on, we were there for each other 24/7. In good times, we were each other’s sidekick. In not-so-good times we were each other’s crying shoulder. At times, we pulled each other out of the deep water. At other times, we shared laughs and inside jokes. We went on double dates with our boyfriends. We even went back to college together, spent long hours, studying together and sharing our life experiences.
Through the years, jobs, second marriages and moves put some physical distance between us, but we did not let that dampen our spirit or, worse, ruin our relationship. Whenever possible, we visited each other on long weekends and reminisced about the past. We were proud of our kids who were all grown up and successful in their personal and professional lives.
When we couldn’t see each other, we called, emailed or chatted on social media.
For the fall of 2019, we had planned a reunion with some of our other friends. But that summer everything changed when Sabitha called me about health issues. I traveled to Milwaukee to be with her. My heart broke to see her in a hospital bed, hooked up to wires. That was then.
Now, 16 months later, she is gone and I have a huge hole in my soul.
At night, I pray to see her in my dream and I promise that I will hug her and not let her go. Other times, I remember her unconditional love, her vivacious personality, our thousands of memories, millions of laughs. That brings a big smile to my face. At the same time I feel like I am drowning in my own tear drops.
To all of you, Bryan, Jenni, Wayne, her grandchildren, Indra and all of her other family members whom I have not had the pleasure of meeting -- I am deeply sorry you lost such a remarkable angel, such a beautiful soul. But please rest assured that, though she may not be here physically, her spirit will be with you eternally.
I am also grateful to Wayne for keeping me informed of her condition almost daily. Thank you, Wayne.
I had one biological sister and one adopted sister. Sadly, this year I lost both -- one in spring and now one in the fall.
Sabitha, dearest, I will cherish our precious memories as long as I live. You may be out of sight for now, but you will be in my heart and mind until we see each other again. Rest in Peace. I love you.
Elizabeth KiLand
left a message on November 30, 2020:
Tribute for Sabitha
It is with great sadness, but also an honor an privilege, to share my thoughts and feelings with you about my dear friend Sabitha today.
It is through the world of dance that Mark and I got to know Sabitha and Wayne, who warmly welcomed us newcomers to the dance community. This was our first introduction to the abundant kindness of Sabitha and Wayne. As we cultivated a deeper friendship with them over the years, we got to know them better and I forged a special bond with Sabitha.
Sabitha was one of the kindness people I have ever known. She only had good-hearted words to say about others and loved bringing people together to share joyous events. One of her hopes, which was unfortunately dashed by her illness and the pandemic, was to host a gathering of family and friends to celebrate her milestone 70th birthday. When that was not possible, Sabitha was elated to discover that her family had planned a zoom birthday celebration with relatives and friends from different corners of the world. Sabitha shared with me that poems were read, songs were sung, laughter and loving thoughts were expressed and it brought her so much happiness.
In addition to her infinite kindness and generosity of spirit, Sabitha had immeasurable love of life, people, dance and adventure. Whenever a new plan or idea was proposed, Sabitha was in and ready to go. We created many shared memories which are now so cherished. Her warm sense of humor, her love of travel and her infinite interests always made conversation lively, fun and engaging.
Sabitha approached adversity with hopefulness. Even when facing her darkest hour, a diagnosis of advanced leukemia, she remained steadfast in her hope that she could overcome this disease and showed amazing courage, grace and dignity. And even as the disease advanced, she never gave up or missed an opportunity to share life’s precious moments with others when she was having a “good day.”
Sabitha’s greatest love and the force that sustained her was her family. Her children and grandchildren were her pride and joy and she delighted in telling anecdotes about the grandchildren’s latest antics. And Wayne, your love, support and caring heart meant the world to her.
Sabitha was an amazing friend. Even as she was fighting for her own life, she somehow found the resources within to provide me with support in my hour of need. I will never forget that. Sabitha’s presence was a gift to all who knew her and her indomitable spirit will live on in our hearts and minds.
Wayne DuVall
left a message on November 25, 2020:
My lovely wife Sabitha
Since your diagnosis with Acute Myeloid Leukemia (AML) in July of 2019, you went thru an exceedingly difficult time. It was a time that consisted of you going into and out of remission. You were determined to beat the AML and it showed.
Unfortunately, things did not work out as we hoped.
The picture represents a time that was incredibly special to the both of us. We had a great time.
You are and always will be my dance partner and the love of my life. I will miss you dearly. Our friends, family, and I all love you and grieve at your loss. When you were lying in the bed, I asked you to be waiting for me when I get there, and you said you would. I’m going to hold you to that. Until we meet again.
Your loving husband Wayne
bryan janeczko
left a message on November 24, 2020:
Mom,
You've shown such courage during your battle with AML. You're such an inspiration for us all. For me, I saw first hand how you would never give up--- so incredibly brave. I did want to share a special moment with our family and friends. Shortly before your diagnosis in 2019, we had an incredible dinner together at Lincoln Ristorante when you last visited New York City. It was an extraordinary evening. I will continue to toast our culinary adventures together eternally. I love you!
Your son,
Bryan
Laura Devi
left a message on November 24, 2020:
Rest In Peace Auntie Beci,
You will never be forgotten, out of pain and no more suffering. I will cherish the memories we hold forever more. Sorely missed,
Laura, Lee and kiddies
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